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A Kiwi Landed in Ukraine…

If someone had said to me five years ago that I would spend five weeks in Ukraine and have the time of my life I would not of believed them but it’s true!

I spent most of my life being pretty oblivious to the hidden lives of orphans in foreign countries. I wasn’t aware of the suffering and neglect that innocent children endure on a daily basis. Especially those who are born with special needs. Watching the documentary “Ukraine’s Forgotten Children” changed my life. I could no longer ignore what was happening on the other side of the world. Last year I decided I wanted to see for myself what life is like for these kids. Plane tickets were booked and a friend from work, Jenny, decided to come too! I set up a fundraising page and spoke with the local newspapers. The response was amazing, over NZ$8,400 was raised for the children.

Then in December there were the protests in Kiev. Then Crimea was taken by Russia. Pro-Russian Terrorists fight in and bomb cities and towns, killing soldiers and innocent civilians. Then 12 days before we are due to leave, flight MH17 was shot down, 298 innocent lives are lost. Many people tried to talk us out of going for our own safety but we decided to go ahead with our trip. After 2 days of flights and hanging around in airports we arrived in the capitol. A day later we were on the new fast train to Zaporozhye. Kiev Train Station is definitely an experience all on it’s own… Mariya from the Happy Child Foundation (Maya’s Hope’s amazing Ukrainian Partner Charity) picked us up from the train station for the 2 and a half hour drive to the first institution we were to visit, Kalinovka. Kalinovka is home to 120 children and young men. On the way we got to see the building site for the new Foster Family Home, where orphaned children will get a chance to live with a family. I am very excited to see this project come together!1

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 Kalinovka really is in the middle of nowhere. The thought of so many lives being lived hidden from the world is heartbreaking. Some of those lucky to be living in the Happy Homes now have spent their whole lives at Kalinovka. For most of their lives the world was completely unaware of their existence. I didn’t expect it to be so big and the buildings to be so spread out. Grown men wandering around aimlessly, some only young and others old. Many with the emotional and physical scars of a lifetime of being in institutions.

 The new Happy Home, built by the Happy Child Foundation, where the girls live is beautiful! The girls and their home are well cared for. The girls really love their caregivers, hired by Maya’s Hope, and have a real bond with them. They love getting cuddles and attention! In the home there are toys, music, TV and a swing to keep them occupied.

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Older Katya (I can’t call her big Katya as they are the same height!) and Larissa do beadwork, colouring in and love chatting with all the different staff members. Larissa of course spends most of her time listening to music and she assigned me the job of putting her music player on charge as required.

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Vera also enjoys listening to music and spending time with staff.

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We were lucky enough to be there when Natasha was adopted and to see her leave the orphanage forever with her family.

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Natasha’s crib

 

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Anzhela and Olya are both so very sweet and love the extra attention they get in the Happy Home. They are just beautiful.

Both girls have benefitted from the massage therapy they receive from Sasha! They can stand with assistance and Anzhela is even taking a few steps.01afe62e3ff68b14a9f68c44ae0b3025b66c8304220150eb00b4650c09b7ad865286d952b095c892352a

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Miroslava loves the swing and the vacuum cleaner! This girl has really blossomed, her smile is beautiful.

Varya is always on the go and is quite the adventure seeker. Her walking is so much better thanks to therapy provided by Maya’s Hope. You can’t stop this girl!

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 Zhenya is full of energy and mischief, she keeps the staff busy. Even her hugs are at full force.

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The caregivers and teachers are caring and affectionate towards the girls. The girls are very lucky to live there!

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The boys Happy Home is not for the faint hearted! Yura, Vanya and Maxim love attention, hugs and music! Usually all at the same time! The staff have their hands full with those 3 and they do their best to keep them occupied with arts and crafts, sports, music, TV and toys.

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We got to see Ruslan leave with his family too, he was very excited! He will be an amazing son.

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Alyosha always greets you with a big smile. He can write and likes colouring in, he concentrates so hard to do it.

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There are two young, bedridden adults living there, Sasha and Vladik. They both seem settled and relaxed, Vladik gets to spend time outside and gets massage therapy.

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Big Sasha keeps everything running smoothly, he is always busy! He collects and empties all the rubbish from the Happy Homes, supervises all the boys and helps the caregivers out with everything from laundry to dishes to vacuuming. He is very happy doing all of this and also likes doing arts and crafts.

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Then there is little Sasha. He is the size of a toddler at 20 years old. I bought some socks for the kids with me and he fits the ones for 18 month – 3 year olds. If I could of brought this little guy home with me I would of. I had a soft spot for him before I visited but now I’m in love! He loves music, walks and really enjoyed listening to my iPod! This little miracle boy can stand and even take a few steps with assistance now.

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The boys have made some really beautiful things and their artwork is displayed throughout their home. Maya’s Hope’s caregiver, Lily, teaches the boys how to make these beautiful things, she is very patient with them. Their caregivers and teachers know them well and have a good sense of humor!

One of the highlights was taking Katya and Larissa over to the boys Happy Home after dinner for dance parties!!  01a34065f6f2e0d0e787b3bf809cd35e74b252deabThe caregivers and teachers were very good to us, even though we didn’t speak the same language and they couldn’t understand our accents. It was also great to see the kids getting massage therapy! After spending three weeks at Kalinovka I could see what a great idea the Happy Homes are and how the kids thrive from living in them. And after visiting the boys and the girls institutions in Zaporozhia I was convinced of this.

The boys institution is home to over 130 boys and young men 4 – 18 years old. In one of the groups in the institution for boys there are 20 young boys, all with different needs and abilities, boys that are constantly trying to hurt themselves and occasionally others, covered in scars and fresh wounds, hands tied behind their backs or to beds / wheelchairs, some mobile, some completely immobile, none can communicate verbally, very few appear to be continent and there are only two caregivers. We did get to meet the caregiver hired by Maya’s Hope, Artem, and see him interact with the boys. They love him! They seek attention from him and love it when he picks them up or takes them for a walk. There needs to be 100 Artem’s!

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DSCF0079All these boys need individual attention and they just can’t get it all the time. There were educational toys sitting unused as no one was told that batteries were needed for them. Once batteries were put in the toys were played with non-stop, the boys loved them! The boys in this group are so sweet and even though they are surrounded by others all the time, they seem so alone in the world.

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We were given permission to visit the girls institution for a few hours. This institution is home to over 400 children and woman. After watching a concert at the put on by the institution we got to meet the bedridden children, escorted by two of the administrators. Some bedridden boys from Kalinovka were also transferred here a few months previously. The bedrooms come off a lounge and when we arrived all the doors to the rooms were all shut…

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A caregiver opened the doors when we went in and then closed them again behind us. Children left in cribs all alone and in complete silence.

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While the institution is clean and friendly looking this is no way to live, they deserve so much better. The staff do not believe that these kids need any stimulation or activity even though almost all of them respond to voice, touch and sound. But with Mariya on their case, I’m sure they will soon change their minds about this! They currently won’t allow caregivers hired by charities to work there. You never know, that may change one day. I wish we were allowed to stay with these children longer. Some really responded to being touched and spoken to. The thought of thousands of rooms like this around Ukraine and other places in the world kills me. How can people think this is anyway for innocent children to live?!

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I will never forget my time in Ukraine and hope to return again. Everyone should pray for peace there, the most innocent are already suffering and it needs to stop. Costs are rising and the Happy Child Foundation and other charities in Ukraine need your donations and help more than ever. Now that you know the plight of these children, how can you ignore it?

A huge thank you to Maya from Maya’s Hope! None of this would of been possible without her help and her dedication to these kids! The work that Maya’s Hope does is changing lives! It is amazing to see it in person, I hope many more people support this incredible charity. I would also like to express my gratitude to the Happy Foundation for their help and everything they do for the children of Zaporozhye. I would especially like to thank Mariya Syemashkina for all her help, the trip would not of been the same without her support. I am forever grateful to her. She does an amazing job and deserves more recognition for the job she does, it is not always easy. We felt safe the whole time we were there. 

Keshia Melton xx

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